Main points .. the self cannot be found anywhere .. broken down it is found to be just thoughts, memories, repeated patterns associated with a body .. Through careful analysis it is found that the self that one took oneself to be is in fact an illusion created of those factors .. Mind/body association and memory and learned responses associated with a name.
To really see myself as not existing it is necessary to see everything as not existing .. If I am an illusion .. so is everything else really ..
as Rumi said ..
“Out there beyond right & wrong is a field,
It’s not “You don’t exist.” But rather “You don’t exist as the illusory (fictional) self you thought you were.” And, in seeing that, non-dual reality may be apprehended.